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May R.
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United States
“Gay kids aren’t a “plot point” that you can play with. Gay kids are real, actual kids, teenagers, growing up into awesome adults, and they don’t have the books they need to reflect that. Growing up, my nose was constantly stuck in a book. Growing up as a lesbian, I was told over and over and over by the lack of gayness in said books that I did not exist. That I wasn’t important enough to tell stories about. That I was invisible. Why are we telling our kids this? Why are we telling them that they’re a minority, and they don’t deserve the same rights as straights, that they’re going to grow up in a world that despises them, that the intolerance of humanity will never change, that they’re worthless. It’s not true.”

-Sarah Diemer

Current Residence: Texas
Favourite genre of music: All
Favourite style of art: Abstract
Operating System: Computer and Nook
MP3 player of choice: I-pod
Favourite cartoon character: Toph
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So I've been building up to coming out to my friends as a lesbian for a while. I really trust this friend, and I know that she'll accept me. She's straight, but she has said many times in the past that she has no prejudice towards the LGBT community whatsoever. I have tried coming out to her three times in the past and haven't succeeded. Today, we started talking, and I said that I needed to tell her something. I know that she's been waiting for me to say it after the last three times I tried to come out, but she has been letting me take my time. 

Anyway, she asked me what I needed to tell her, and for a while, I couldn't say it. Then, I asked if she knew what I was trying to do, and she told me that she was pretty sure that she did. After that, she told me that I should just tell her, and it was okay to talk to her. I told her that I was a lesbian after that.

Her first reaction was asking me if I was sure that I wasn't just bisexual to which I responded with a firm yes. She said that that was really cool then.

We talked a little about how long I had known and the struggles that I had had. She was perfectly understanding and comforting about it. I said that I had accepted myself, and now I wanted to be more open with my friends. She thought that that was great of me.

After that, I thanked her and told her that talking to her really helped me. She was glad that she could help and was still really caring when we said bye to each other.

Overall, after I got over my nerves, this time was really pleasant, and I'm happy that I did it. I feel better now, but I'm still nervous about talking to my other friends that don't know. I'm going to do it sometime in the near future though, and I'm proud of myself today. I know that it can't always be this way, but I'm happy that this first experience went as well as it did. It's really reassuring, and I know that I will be more confident in the future even if others don't accept me. This has just given me faith to continue on this path and not hide myself from friends anymore.

Of course, my parents are a different story.  I think that I'm going to wait until I don't have to live under their roof anymore to tell them. My brother is homophobic, and I don't want to have to call home a place where people act as if they hate me. Any advice or support would be great, but I'm just happy that I've taken this first step right now. It feels like I don't have weight on my shoulders when I talk to my friend anymore. That's a good feeling, and I'll never forget it. 

I know that if I'm sad or depressed in the future about a reaction, I can just think back to today and be able to go on without losing that self acceptence that took so long to build up. I think that things are going to be better from now on.

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Dramance Featured By Owner Apr 8, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
Thanks for the fave!!! :happybounce:
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sm364217 Featured By Owner Apr 8, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
You're welcome.
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bee97 Featured By Owner Aug 15, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
thank you so much for the favourite! It means a lot! <3
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sm364217 Featured By Owner Aug 21, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
You're welcome. :)
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bee97 Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
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sm364217 Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
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tumblinteaaa Featured By Owner Jul 13, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Thanks for the fav!
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Melody2fantasy Featured By Owner Jul 2, 2013  Hobbyist Artist
Thank you for the Fav+
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Kiriles Featured By Owner Jul 1, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thanks for the favourite! ^^
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bluecowmonkey Featured By Owner Jul 1, 2013  Student General Artist
thank you so much for adding my work to your favourites, lovely! It really means a lot to me! I hope you have a spectacular day :iconflowerthnxplz:
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